Enabling Infidelity?

 We're going to take a left today and explore an issue that many women face...

If he does you wrong, do you stay? Perhaps you are tired of fighting or you suspect the grass isn't greener on the other side? Does that still validate you remaining in an unfair and unhealthy relationship? Are you sending a message to men and future generations that it is okay to  tolerate infidelity? Lets analyze...

The Past: Your long term boyfriend proposes and seals the deal the day of your wedding  saying all his  years of lies and cheating will stop. Little did You know that a few months later you will come to find that life as a wife has its surprises, such as your new husband informing you that you will now also be a step mother due to his indiscretions. So, here you find that everyone around you knew that your fiance was doing you wrong and yet they stood proudly in your wedding court and said nothing as you committed your life to a liar.

OK moving along... Now a year into the marriage, Its revealed that everything You knew to be true of the situation (from what He told you) was a lie. She never knew of  You/hated You/was jealous of You/wanted to fight You.  And You inform her that the same wasnt felt on your end although that's what He told She. She actually felt bad for You because She was logical enough to believe that You didn't know the real man You married. 

The Present: Stories exchanged... You meet She and stepchild and all is well :-). We deserve better... gotta be strong as women and mothers... Our children need to know each other since because they are siblings. The kids are here. Babies coming into the world of broken families.

Melanie Fiona plays on. . . "And it kills me". . .


You and He make a mends despite the myriad of lies and affairs. She is sad... not for herself as she has  long since moved on, but for You. Her sadness arises when the thought that accepting and forgiving such acts can only bring pain for You because it wont end simply with the birth of a child or an apology that you have heard many times before. 

The Future: In a reality of You, who accept the betrayal and infidelity, your children will grow and learn to accept such things as well. Your children will see this as normal, to go to their sibling's house for occasions. My mother, your mother, our father, and the other brothers and sisters who our moms don't get along with their moms so we don't see them much. Its a sad thought of She.

The future seems dreary when women don't have the strength to know their worth.

Who could you be? You or She?